Strong people or the people who have strong personality often attract some of the most difficult commitments and relationships. This usually happens because either people have higher expectations or they are completely unrealistic ones, from the person who is with them. Following are some of the reasons due to which strong personality differs in committing with their partners.
According to certain psychologists, there are 5 insights of which we will explore today.
1-STRONG PEOPLE HAVE WHAT EVERYONE WANTS BUT FEW CAN OFFER
Strong people are confident, they are self-aware, and have emotional intelligence. All of these qualities of strong people are quite attractive especially to those individuals who lack them. This turns a strong personality into a magnet for needy types with everything to gain and nothing to offer.
That’s problematic because at the root of every solid relationship is reciprocation. Each person must be able to provide something with the other wants. If the benefits only flow one way, the ‘giver’ in the relationship winds up feeling more ‘valued’ than ‘loved.’
2-STRONG PEOPLE PARTICULARLY WOMEN ARE MAGNETS FOR PSYCHOPATHS
This totally seems weird and awkward but according to Donna Andersen the founder of LoveFraud that is a site about psychopaths and dating is totally true
According to Donna Andersen, the fact that a woman who is a go-getter, ambitious and has a powerful job can get involved with a psychopath is surprising for people, but those are the women who ‘regular’ men are often intimidated by and won’t approach,”
Remember, a strong person and a psychopath have a few key things in common. They’re both intelligent, confident and calculated. The difference, of course, is that a psychopath has no regard for emotions. They’ll break that strong person down.
3-STRONG PEOPLE OFTEN DEVELOP THEIR STRENGTH THROUGH TRAUMATIC CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES
According to this theory, there are certain people who tend to seek and develops themselves according to what they have faced earlier, they respond in that way, behaves in that way. People usually tend to develop and build their strength to childhood abuse.
According to several psychologists, such people have a compulsion to repeat their trauma by finding partners who can trigger it. It’s their way of trying to confront it. Of course, this is very difficult, largely because each person is more focused on finding closure than love.
4–STRONG PEOPLE OVERESTIMATE THEIR ABILITY TO CHANGE OTHERS
The people who are strong, give chances to individuals while others would just write off. This probably made them be tagged as “deplorable’ individuals. Ultimately, though, this usually leads to frustration for both individuals; just because someone is strong doesn’t make them a great life coach.
5-SOMETIMES, DIFFICULT RELATIONSHIPS HOLD LESSONS THAT ARE WORTH THE EFFORT
That’s merely a truth that sometimes a strong and wise person finds it difficult to be in a relationship. Maybe the universe wants them to help get their partner to the next level. Maybe they need to learn about humility. Perhaps that relationship will make them even stronger in the long run.